Books for Gender-Diverse Folks, their Families, and Our Allies

Books for Gender-Diverse Folks, their
Families, and Our Allies

These books come highly recommended from our therapists. They range from gender identity explorations, to self-improvement guides, skill-building workbooks, and more. We hope you find the comfort in knowing that you’re not alone.

Books on LGBTQ+ Education for Allies

Books on Gender Diversity in the Family

The Reflective Workbook for Parents and Families of Transgender and Non-Binary Children: Your Transition as Your Child Transitions

By D. M. Maynard

BOOK IMAGE: The Reflective Workbook for Parents and Families of Transgender and Non-Binary Children: Your Transition as Your Child Transitions by D. M. MaynardThis innovative workbook discusses the unique needs of parents and families as they navigate their child’s gender exploration. Providing a safe space for them to work through their own uncertainties and necessities, it gives specifically tailored guidance and support, with sections on school life, language and terminology, finding a therapist, possible grief, social/medical intervention options and more. Personal anecdotes from parents and other family members offer insight and understanding, alongside reflective activities, quizzes and positive affirmations throughout.

The Reflective Workbook for Parents and Families of Transgender and Non-Binary Children: Your Transition as Your Child Transitions

By D. M. Maynard

BOOK IMAGE: The Reflective Workbook for Parents and Families of Transgender and Non-Binary Children: Your Transition as Your Child Transitions by D. M. MaynardThis innovative workbook discusses the unique needs of parents and families as they navigate their child’s gender exploration. Providing a safe space for them to work through their own uncertainties and necessities, it gives specifically tailored guidance and support, with sections on school life, language and terminology, finding a therapist, possible grief, social/medical intervention options and more. Personal anecdotes from parents and other family members offer insight and understanding, alongside reflective activities, quizzes and positive affirmations throughout.

Found in Transition: A Mother’s Evolution During Her Child’s Gender Change

BY Paria Hassouri, M.D.

BOOK IMAGE... Found in Transition: A Mother’s Evolution during Her Child’s Gender Change by Paria Hassouri, M.D.In this wonderfully frank, loving, and practical account of parenting a transgender teen, Paria chronicles what amounts to a dual transition: as her child transitions from male to female, she navigates through anger, denial, and grief to eventually arrive at acceptance. Despite her experience advising other parents in her work as a pediatrician, she was blindsided by her child’s gender identity. Paria is also forced to examine how she still carries insecurities from her past of growing up as an Iranian-American immigrant in a predominantly white neighborhood, and how her life experience is causing her to parent with fear instead of love. Paria discovers her capacity to evolve, as well as what it really means to parent and the deepest nature of unconditional love.

Found in Transition: A Mother’s Evolution During Her Child’s Gender Change

BY Paria Hassouri, M.D.

BOOK IMAGE... Found in Transition: A Mother’s Evolution during Her Child’s Gender Change by Paria Hassouri, M.D.In this wonderfully frank, loving, and practical account of parenting a transgender teen, Paria chronicles what amounts to a dual transition: as her child transitions from male to female, she navigates through anger, denial, and grief to eventually arrive at acceptance. Despite her experience advising other parents in her work as a pediatrician, she was blindsided by her child’s gender identity. Paria is also forced to examine how she still carries insecurities from her past of growing up as an Iranian-American immigrant in a predominantly white neighborhood, and how her life experience is causing her to parent with fear instead of love. Paria discovers her capacity to evolve, as well as what it really means to parent and the deepest nature of unconditional love.

Love Makes a Family

By Sophie Beer

BOOK IMAGE... Cultural Awareness in Therapy with Trans and Gender Non-Conforming Adults and Older People by Tavi HawnLove is baking a special cake. Love is lending a helping hand. Love is reading one more book. In this exuberant board book, many different families are shown in happy activity, from an early-morning wake-up to a kiss before bed. Whether a child has two moms, two dads, one parent, or one of each, this simple preschool read-aloud demonstrates that what’s most important in each family’s life is the love the family members share.

Books on Nonbinary Identity

Nonbinary: Memoirs of Gender and Identity

By Micah Rajunov and A. Scott Duane

BOOK IMAGE: The Reflective Workbook for Parents and Families of Transgender and Non-Binary Children: Your Transition as Your Child Transitions by D. M. MaynardEven mundane interactions like filling out a form or using a public bathroom can be a struggle when these designations prove inadequate. In this groundbreaking book, thirty authors highlight how our experiences are shaped by a deeply entrenched gender binary. The powerful first-person narratives of this collection show us a world where gender exists along a spectrum, a web, a multidimensional space. Nuanced storytellers break away from mainstream portrayals of gender diversity, cutting across lines of age, race, ethnicity, ability, class, religion, family, and relationships.

Nonbinary: Memoirs of Gender and Identity

By Micah Rajunov and A. Scott Duane

BOOK IMAGE: Nonbinary: Memoirs of Gender and Identity by Micah Rajunov and  A. Scott DuaneEven mundane interactions like filling out a form or using a public bathroom can be a struggle when these designations prove inadequate. In this groundbreaking book, thirty authors highlight how our experiences are shaped by a deeply entrenched gender binary. The powerful first-person narratives of this collection show us a world where gender exists along a spectrum, a web, a multidimensional space. Nuanced storytellers break away from mainstream portrayals of gender diversity, cutting across lines of age, race, ethnicity, ability, class, religion, family, and relationships.

Beyond the Gender Binary: Pocket Change Collective

BY Alok Vaid-Menon

BOOK IMAGE... Found in Transition: A Mother’s Evolution during Her Child’s Gender Change by Paria Hassouri, M.D.Winner of the 2021 “In The Margins” Award, Beyond the Gender Binary challenges the world to see gender not in black and white, but in full color. Taking from their own experiences as a gender-nonconforming artist, they show us that gender is a malleable and creative form of expression. The only limit is your imagination. Billy Porter, Emmy award-winning actor, singer, and Broadway theater performer says “Thank God we have Alok. And I’m learning a thing or two myself.” Sam Smith, Grammy and Oscar award-winning singer and songwriter says “When reading this book, all I feel is kindness.”

Beyond the Gender Binary: Pocket Change Collective

BY Alok Vaid-Menon

BOOK IMAGE... Beyond the Gender Binary: Pocket Change Collective by Alok Vaid-MenonWinner of the 2021 “In The Margins” Award, Beyond the Gender Binary challenges the world to see gender not in black and white, but in full color. Taking from their own experiences as a gender-nonconforming artist, they show us that gender is a malleable and creative form of expression. The only limit is your imagination. Billy Porter, Emmy award-winning actor, singer, and Broadway theater performer says “Thank God we have Alok. And I’m learning a thing or two myself.” Sam Smith, Grammy and Oscar award-winning singer and songwriter chimes in “When reading this book, all I feel is kindness.

Nonbinary for Beginners: Everything You’ve Been Afraid to Ask About Gender, Pronouns, Being an Ally, and Black & White Thinking

By Ocean Atlas

BOOK IMAGE... Nonbinary For Beginners: Everything You’ve Been Afraid to Ask About Gender, Pronouns, Being an Ally, and Black & White Thinking by Ocean AtlasWhether you are exploring gender, you want to support a loved one or be an ally, or you have heard about LGBTQ folks on the news, your curiosity about non-binary, genderqueer and transgender identities suggests that you are a caring and open-minded person. This book is for nonbinary folks and for allies — to read, to get validation and talking points, and to pass this book on to your neighbors, your community, your acquaintances, and anyone who would like to better understand and empathize with others.

Books that Explore and Reflect on Gender Identity

You and Your Gender Identity:
A Guide to Discovery

By Dara Hoffman-Fox, LPC

BOOK IMAGE: She's Not the Man I Married: My Life with a Transgender Husband by Helen BoydA guide to help you navigate your journey of self-discovery in three approachable stages: preparation, reflection, and exploration. In You and Your Gender Identity, you will learn why understanding your gender identity is core to embracing your full being; how to sustain the highs and lows of your journey with resources, connection, and self-care; why it’s important to examine your past through the lens of gender exploration; how to discover and begin living as your authentic self — and much more.

You and Your Gender Identity:
A Guide to Discovery

By Dara Hoffman-Fox, LPC

BOOK IMAGE: She's Not the Man I Married: My Life with a Transgender Husband by Helen BoydA guide to help you navigate your journey of self-discovery in three approachable stages: preparation, reflection, and exploration. In You and Your Gender Identity, you will learn why understanding your gender identity is core to embracing your full being; how to sustain the highs and lows of your journey with resources, connection, and self-care; why it’s important to examine your past through the lens of gender exploration; how to discover and begin living as your authentic self — and much more.

The Queer and Transgender Resilience Workbook: Skills for Navigating Sexual Orientation and Gender Expression

BY Anneliese Singh, PhD, LPC

BOOK IMAGE... The Queer and Transgender Resilience Workbook: Skills for Navigating Sexual Orientation and Gender Expression Beyond the everyday stress and major setbacks that everyone experiences, queer or gender non-conforming people can also face challenges like discrimination in housing and health care, employment barriers, homelessness, family rejection, and physical attacks or threats. This workbook discusses key components of resilience: holding a positive view of yourself and your abilities; cultivating a strong sense of self-esteem; effectively utilizing resources; creating a support community; fostering hope and growth within yourself, and finding the strength to help others.

The Queer and Transgender Resilience Workbook: Skills for Navigating Sexual Orientation and Gender Expression

BY Anneliese Singh, PhD, LPC

BOOK IMAGE... The Queer and Transgender Resilience Workbook: Skills for Navigating Sexual Orientation and Gender Expression Beyond the everyday stress and major setbacks that everyone experiences, queer or gender non-conforming people can also face challenges like discrimination in housing and health care, employment barriers, homelessness, family rejection, and physical attacks or threats. This workbook discusses key components of resilience: holding a positive view of yourself and your abilities; cultivating a strong sense of self-esteem; effectively utilizing resources; creating a support community; fostering hope and growth within yourself, and finding the strength to help others.

Cultural Awareness in Therapy
with Trans and Gender Non-Conforming
Adults and Older People

By Tavi Hawn

BOOK IMAGE... Cultural Awareness in Therapy with Trans and Gender Non-Conforming Adults and Older People by Tavi HawnPractical advice for therapists and other professionals on developing culturally sensitive practices with trans clients regardless of race, ethnicity, or religion, including older trans people. Includes case studies, tips, self-assessment checklists, and further resources.

Becoming Eve: My Journey from Ultra-Orthodox Rabbi to Transgender Woman

By Abby Chava Stein

BOOK IMAGE: Becoming Eve: My Journey from Ultra-Orthodox Rabbi to Transgender WomanThe powerful coming-of-age story of an ultra-Orthodox child who was born to become a rabbinic leader and instead became a woman… Abby Stein was raised in a Hasidic Jewish community in Brooklyn, isolated in a culture that lives according to the laws and practices of 18th century Eastern Europe, speaking only Yiddish and Hebrew and shunning modern life. Stein was born as the first son in a dynastic rabbinical family, poised to become a leader of the next generation of Hasidic Jews. But Abby felt certain at a young age that she was a girl. She suppressed her desire for a new body while looking for answers and, finally, she orchestrated a personal exodus from ultra-Orthodox manhood to mainstream femininity.

Becoming Eve: My Journey from Ultra-Orthodox Rabbi to Transgender Woman

By Abby Chava Stein

BOOK IMAGE: Becoming Eve: My Journey from Ultra-Orthodox Rabbi to Transgender WomanThe powerful coming-of-age story of an ultra-Orthodox child who was born to become a rabbinic leader and instead became a woman… Abby Stein was raised in a Hasidic Jewish community in Brooklyn, isolated in a culture that lives according to the laws and practices of 18th century Eastern Europe, speaking only Yiddish and Hebrew and shunning modern life. Stein was born as the first son in a dynastic rabbinical family, poised to become a leader of the next generation of Hasidic Jews. But Abby felt certain at a young age that she was a girl. She suppressed her desire for a new body while looking for answers and, finally, she orchestrated a personal exodus from ultra-Orthodox manhood to mainstream femininity.

Trans Bodies, Trans Selves: A Resource for the Transgender Community

BY Laura Erickson-Schroth

BOOK IMAGE... The Queer and Transgender Resilience Workbook: Skills for Navigating Sexual Orientation and Gender Expression A comprehensive, reader-friendly guide for transgender people, with each chapter written by transgender and gender expansive authors. Widely accessible to the transgender population, it provides authoritative information in an inclusive and respectful way, and and by representing the collective knowledge base of dozens of influential experts. Each chapter takes the reader through an important issue, such as race, religion, employment, medical and surgical transition, mental health, relationships, sexuality, parenthood, arts and culture, and many more. Anonymous quotes, testimonials, art and poetry from transgender people are woven throughout, adding compelling, personal voices to every page.

Trans Bodies, Trans Selves: A Resource for the Transgender Community

BY Laura Erickson-Schroth

BOOK IMAGE... The Queer and Transgender Resilience Workbook: Skills for Navigating Sexual Orientation and Gender Expression A comprehensive, reader-friendly guide for transgender people, with each chapter written by transgender and gender expansive authors. Widely accessible to the transgender population, it provides authoritative information in an inclusive and respectful way, and and by representing the collective knowledge base of dozens of influential experts. Each chapter takes the reader through an important issue, such as race, religion, employment, medical and surgical transition, mental health, relationships, sexuality, parenthood, arts and culture, and many more. Anonymous quotes, testimonials, art and poetry from transgender people are woven throughout, adding compelling, personal voices to every page.

Trans Bodies, Trans Selves: A Resource for the Transgender Community

BY Laura Erickson-Schroth

BOOK IMAGE... The Queer and Transgender Resilience Workbook: Skills for Navigating Sexual Orientation and Gender Expression A comprehensive, reader-friendly guide for transgender people, with each chapter written by transgender and gender expansive authors. Widely accessible to the transgender population, it provides authoritative information in an inclusive and respectful way, and and by representing the collective knowledge base of dozens of influential experts. Each chapter takes the reader through an important issue, such as race, religion, employment, medical and surgical transition, mental health, relationships, sexuality, parenthood, arts and culture, and many more. Anonymous quotes, testimonials, art and poetry from transgender people are woven throughout, adding compelling, personal voices to every page.

The Real Lives of Transgender and Nonbinary Humans: A Publish Your Purpose Anthology

By Brandi Lai

BOOK IMAGE... The Real Lives of Transgender and Nonbinary Humans: A Publish Your Purpose Anthology by Brandi LaiThis powerful collection of stories, told by transgender and nonbinary people of all ages and from all walks of life, is an inspiring tribute to the human spirit. They are our children, parents, siblings, neighbors, friends, and colleagues. Many have faced daunting challenges and have overcome the hardships of poverty, racism, transphobia, and alienation from their families. Some have become activists; some are entrepreneurs; others simply want to make a difference in one person’s life. But wherever their journeys have taken them, they are so much more than their gender transitions. This book is a testament to the power of hope, determination, and the possibilities open to everyone when they learn to love and accept themselves for who they really are.

Books for Partners of Trans & TGD individuals

She’s Not the Man I Married: My Life with a Transgender Husband

BY Helen Boyd

BOOK IMAGE: She's Not the Man I Married: My Life with a Transgender Husband by Helen BoydHelen Boyd’s husband, who had long been open about being a cross-dresser, was considering living as a woman full time. Suddenly, Boyd was confronted with the reality of what it would mean if her husband were actually to become a woman socially, legally, and medically. Would Boyd love and desire her partner the same way? This book is for couples who are homosexual or heterosexual, and for readers who fall anywhere along the gender continuum. As Boyd struggles to understand the nature of marriage, passion, and love, she shares her confusion and anger, providing a fascinating observation of the ways in which relationships are gendered, and how we cope, or don’t, with the emotional and sexual pressures that gender roles can bring to our marriages and relationships.

She’s Not the Man I Married: My Life with a Transgender Husband

BY Helen Boyd

BOOK IMAGE: She's Not the Man I Married: My Life with a Transgender Husband by Helen BoydHelen Boyd’s husband, who had long been open about being a cross-dresser, was considering living as a woman full time. Suddenly, Boyd was confronted with the reality of what it would mean if her husband were actually to become a woman socially, legally, and medically. Would Boyd love and desire her partner the same way? This book is for couples who are homosexual or heterosexual, and for readers who fall anywhere along the gender continuum. As Boyd struggles to understand the nature of marriage, passion, and love, she shares her confusion and anger, providing a fascinating observation of the ways in which relationships are gendered, and how we cope, or don’t, with the emotional and sexual pressures that gender roles can bring to our marriages and relationships.

She’s Not the Man I Married: My Life with a Transgender Husband

BY Helen Boyd

BOOK IMAGE: She's Not the Man I Married: My Life with a Transgender Husband by Helen BoydHelen Boyd’s husband, who had long been open about being a cross-dresser, was considering living as a woman full time. Suddenly, Boyd was confronted with the reality of what it would mean if her husband were actually to become a woman socially, legally, and medically. Would Boyd love and desire her partner the same way? This book is for couples who are homosexual or heterosexual, and for readers who fall anywhere along the gender continuum. As Boyd struggles to understand the nature of marriage, passion, and love, she shares her confusion and anger, providing a fascinating observation of the ways in which relationships are gendered, and how we cope, or don’t, with the emotional and sexual pressures that gender roles can bring to our marriages and relationships.

The Reflective Workbook for Partners of Transgender People: Your Transition as Your Partner Transitions

BY D. M. Maynard

BOOK IMAGE... The Reflective Workbook for Partners of Transgender People: Your Transition as Your Partner Transitions | by by D. M. Maynard Partners of people in transition go through their own transitions and may or may not be conflicted as to whether they will remain in their relationship. This unique self-help workbook was created for and focuses on the partner’s perspective and own journey. By providing the support and structure needed for partners to reflect, this resource helps navigate the unexpected transition that affects both of their lives. This book gives guidance and advice specifically designed for this situation, alongside activities, quizzes, and personal anecdotes. By combining portions of the author’s self-exploration — as the partner of someone who began to transition after 17 years of being in their relationship — with the experiences shared by those who attended her workshops, this workbook examines the challenges, uncertainties, and possible grieving some partners experience throughout the transition process.

The Reflective Workbook for Partners of Transgender People: Your Transition as Your Partner Transitions

BY D. M. Maynard

BOOK IMAGE... The Reflective Workbook for Partners of Transgender People: Your Transition as Your Partner Transitions | by by D. M. Maynard Partners of people in transition go through their own transitions and may or may not be conflicted as to whether they will remain in their relationship. This unique self-help workbook was created for and focuses on the partner’s perspective and own journey. By providing the support and structure needed for partners to reflect, this resource helps navigate the unexpected transition that affects both of their lives. This book gives guidance and advice specifically designed for this situation, alongside activities, quizzes, and personal anecdotes. By combining portions of the author’s self-exploration — as the partner of someone who began to transition after 17 years of being in their relationship — with the experiences shared by those who attended her workshops, this workbook examines the challenges, uncertainties, and possible grieving some partners experience throughout the transition process.

The Trans Partner Handbook

By Jo Green

BOOK IMAGE... The Trans Partner Handbook Individuals who transition from one gender to another are often in some degree of a relationship, and over 55% of these relationships endure through the transition process. While more resources are emerging for trans people themselves, there is very little information available for their partners. Through first-hand accounts and vignettes of successful partnerships, this book presents detailed descriptions of everything involved in the transition process, with specific guidance for those supporting a partner in transition. Topics include disclosure, mental health, coming out, loss and grief, sex and sexuality, and the legal / medical / social practicalities of transitioning. In this essential guide, people whose partners are across the transgender spectrum speak out on their own experiences with personal advice and support for others.

The Trans Partner Handbook

By Jo Green

BOOK IMAGE... The Trans Partner Handbook Individuals who transition from one gender to another are often in some degree of a relationship, and over 55% of these relationships endure through the transition process. While more resources are emerging for trans people themselves, there is very little information available for their partners. Through first-hand accounts and vignettes of successful partnerships, this book presents detailed descriptions of everything involved in the transition process, with specific guidance for those supporting a partner in transition. Topics include disclosure, mental health, coming out, loss and grief, sex and sexuality, and the legal / medical / social practicalities of transitioning. In this essential guide, people whose partners are across the transgender spectrum speak out on their own experiences with personal advice and support for others.

Books for Allies of Transgender and TGD Folks

The Savvy Ally: A Guide for Becoming a Skilled LGBTQ+ Advocate

BY JEANNIE GAINSBURG

BOOK IMAGE: The Savvy Ally: A Guide for Becoming a Skilled LGBTQ+ Advocate by Jeannie Gainsburg Easy to understand, enjoyable, and (at times) funny, The Savvy Ally is encouraging guidebook for folks who would like learn more about — and actively engage with, while supporting — the LGBTQ+ communities. It is chock full of practical and useful tools for LGBTQ+ advocacy including ways to effectively navigate difficult conversations and actions for creating more LGBTQ+ inclusive spaces — among many others. This book will be useful for teachers, counselors, social workers, nurses, medical technicians, and college professors, as well as parents who want to be supportive of their LGBTQ+ child, but don’t know how. This is not a book about why to be an ally. This is a book about how to be an ally.

The Gender Workshop Book, Featuring the Gender Unicorn: Improve Your Allyship with these Reflective Questions, Infographics, and Statistics

BY MICHELLE RAINE

BOOK IMAGE... The Gender Workshop Book, Featuring the Gender Unicorn: Improve Your Allyship with these Reflective Questions, Infographics, and Statistics | by Michelle Raine This Gender Unicorn activity book is a comprehensive guidebook that is perfect for anyone looking to deepen their understanding of gender and become a better ally to the LGBTQ+ community. It’s filled with insightful statistics and engaging infographics that will help readers reflect on the meaning of gender and how it relates to our everyday lives. Children ages 8 and up, as well as adults who are on their own journey of gender exploration and comprehension will benefit. This workbook will provide you with the knowledge and tools you need to create safe spaces for all students to explore and express themselves.

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Be an Inclusion Ally: ABCs of LGBTQ+

BY LISA KOENECKE, M.S.

BOOK IMAGE... Be an Inclusion Ally | by Lisa Koenecke, M.S. Be an Inclusion Ally brilliantly illuminates the path to becoming the most supportive Ally you can be both personally and professionally. This book is the quintessential fast, funny, and ready resource for educating yourself and others about the LGBTQ+ community. With wit and wisdom woven throughout, it’s a goldmine for individuals who have questions, but don’t know whom to ask. This book celebrates YOU for being willing to learn more and create an inclusive workplace or school.

Books for Allies of Transgender and TGD Folks

The Savvy Ally: A Guide for Becoming a Skilled LGBTQ+ Advocate

BY JEANNIE GAINSBURG

BOOK IMAGE: The Savvy Ally: A Guide for Becoming a Skilled LGBTQ+ Advocate by Jeannie Gainsburg Partners of people in transition go through their own transitions and may or may not be conflicted as to whether they will remain in their relationship. This unique self-help workbook was created for and focuses on the partner’s perspective and own journey. It offers guidance and advice specifically designed for this situation, alongside activities, quizzes, and personal anecdotes. By combining portions of the author’s self-exploration as the partner of someone who began to transition, 17 years after being in their relationship along with the experiences shared by those who attended her workshops — this workbook examines the challenges some partners experience throughout the transition process.

The Gender Workshop Book, Featuring the Gender Unicorn: Improve Your Allyship with these Reflective Questions, Infographics, and Statistics

BY MICHELLE RAINE

BOOK IMAGE... The Gender Workshop Book, Featuring the Gender Unicorn: Improve Your Allyship with these Reflective Questions, Infographics, and Statistics | by Michelle Raine This Gender Unicorn activity book is a comprehensive guidebook that is perfect for anyone looking to deepen their understanding of gender and become a better ally to the LGBTQ+ community. It’s filled with insightful statistics and engaging infographics that will help readers reflect on the meaning of gender and how it relates to our everyday lives. Children ages 8 and up, as well as adults who are on their own journey of gender exploration and comprehension will benefit. This workbook will provide you with the knowledge and tools you need to create safe spaces for all students to explore and express themselves.

Be an Inclusion Ally: ABCs of LGBTQ+

BY LISA KOENECKE, M.S.

BOOK IMAGE... Be an Inclusion Ally | by Lisa Koenecke, M.S. Partners of people in transition go through their own transitions and may or may not be conflicted as to whether they will remain in their relationship. This unique self-help workbook was created for and focuses on the partner’s perspective and own journey. It offers guidance and advice specifically designed for this situation, alongside activities, quizzes, and personal anecdotes. By combining portions of the author’s self-exploration as the partner of someone who began to transition, 17 years after being in their relationship along with the experiences shared by those who attended her workshops — this workbook examines the challenges some partners experience throughout the transition process.

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